My previous blog discussed immature reactions to problem solving or effecting changes in your life. If you find yourself using fighting, running away (avoiding) or numbing out (denial), you are using immature behaviors. This does not necessarily mean you are immature, but it does mean your behaviors will be immature. You can be a very highly functional adult in lots of areas in your life, but if you are reactive in relationships or your approach to problem solving, your behavior needs updating.
Anyone who is not functioning well in all areas of their life needs recovery and restoration. Recovery is for those with addiction problems, both overt and covert. Some adults look okay because they do not use drugs, alcohol, or have the obvious addictions, but they still have negative behaviors/thinking that is immature. Do not assume that because you LOOK like you have it all together that you do. Bottom line: if your life is not going as you would like and you are complaining or negative and not living a healthy lifestyle, something is out of balance. YOU need to own it and take positive actions that will change things for the better. One major way to begin is to think about what you think. Focus on negative think draws negative. Focus on positive things brings like kind. This is the Law of Attraction, but you need to be consistent and intentional to keep thinking in the direction you want to head. If you let other people’s behavior influence you back to old ways, reset and take back your power to think and respond, as you would like things to be.
Learning: When I own my part in something as an adult, I will be able to see more clearly how to resolve it and move forward. When I depend on anyone else to change my reality or change me, I will transfer my inner power to him or her. Under that system, I will be influenced by that persons control over me and not hear or trust my own inner voice. I am letting another person rule my thinking of what I should or should not be doing. At first, this seems to suggest I am saying you should never to listen to others. Of course, I am not saying that. I am saying that you own your reality and it is up to you to take responsibility for the things you don’t like. Otherwise, you will just create bigger problems and create more drama. Some are addicted to drama and do thrive on having a complaining story to tell.
STEPS: Start with YOU! Find a spiritual path for yourself that involves a Higher Power that is all loving and will help you. Most people call that power God, but the main thing is that you know that there is a Universal Power that Loves all humans and has spiritual laws that are for everyone. All humans are loved un-conditionally. So, your WHO is intact, but your behavior is probably blocking laws of abundance and growth. The law of cause and effect states that any action produces an outcome in exact proportion to the cause that initiated it. For example, if you are angry and resentful all the time and blaming others, you are actually causing an effect to come back to you in like. Take positive action, therefore, to change that behavior.
Next time: How to work through thinking and emotions to gain maturity and a more balanced state of well being. You can prepare by contemplating if you are balanced. Find at least one area where you tend to focus on the negative, consider a positive, healthy alternative and post it up here.