It helps to have a definition of what WHOLENESS AND WELLNESS looks like when you are interested in keeping your life in mature balance, and operate in a mature True Self. So, first let me take the letters in my STEPS TREATMENT PLAN one by one. I will briefly describe wholeness and wellness in each of the five areas.
SPIRITUAL WHOLENESS AND WELLNESS– The condition of balance in spirituality. First, it is important and necessary to have a set of guiding beliefs, principles and values that give meaning to your life. That can include a religion that guides your beliefs or having a deep appreciation for life and the universal laws that govern us as humans. The wellness from having a whole understanding of the spiritual realm includes learning how to find purpose in your own life, how to treat others, how to experience joy, love, peace and true fulfillment. It is also very helpful to have a relationship with your Higher Power or God so that you can feel inherent worth and value inside yourself as coming from a Creator of the Universe. This leads to knowing how to love yourself and others enough to desire full potential for all humans. This base system is the essential component for overcoming fear, anxiety, depression, anger, and other negative mindsets.
THINKING WELL AND WITH A CONDITION OF WHOLENESS– The conditions of the thinking of a balanced and mature person include a desire to grow in knowledge and remain open to new ideas from self and sharing with others. It is important to continue learning and understanding and build on information using critical thinking skills and expanding thoughts through questioning. Developing a keen sense of humor, curiosity and a love for things creative advances the human mind.
EMOTIONAL WELLNESS AND WHOLENESS in mature balance is very hard for most people. It necessitates an awareness and presence with inner true self. It also requires acceptance of vulnerability of self and others, using vulnerability places that often feel awkward. Being able to respond in a healthy way to the emotional states of others while remaining in balance with one’s own emotions is delicate and tricky at best. Digging into the internal systems of your self and healing past wounds is key to cutting out reactivity and defensiveness around your personal relationships. Trust in self, ability to esteem self, and the ability to share feelings in the present with out anger, blaming or shaming another are signs of wellness. Growing emotions up to adult maturity is a process that is ongoing.
PHYSICAL WHOLENESS AND WELLNESS is all about taking care of oneself in the physical realms of life. Healthy eating and exercise top the list along with self care and staying in balance with finances and all the material things of life. Taking care of cardiovascular and other systems along with moderate use of alcohol is essential. Good health habits need to last a lifetime and be diligently maintained. Most people understand what a physically well life looks like as it is usually the main focus.
SOCIAL and RELATIONSHIP WELLNESS AND WHOLENESS in balance has a lot to do with dependency. The well part looks interdependent in all relationships including the most intimate ones. Depending too heavily on another person is usually more codependent and unhealthy. Not needing to be close at all and being overly independent is also unbalanced. Contributing to the welfare of community and family relationships creates a sense of harmony and gives balance to a person. The most important element in a social network is having key support people that care and will encourage a person to grow and develop their full potential. Seeking a lifestyle that enables one to achieve and succeed and working to help others do likewise is how to achieve wholeness in this area.
It looks like I wasn’t all that brief, but I know a balanced life will not be achieved without a base understanding of a background of what it entails. Try to read this blog in chunks and know that it will get more practical and interesting.
See you back in a couple days,